Being a Nerdy Adult Can Get Lonely

I have never felt so alone as I have these last couple of weeks since EA shut down BioWare and canceled the next Mass Effect.

It just dawned on me that I had nobody to share it with in real life. I don’t have a lot of real-life friends. My two best friends are married with children. When we’re together, it’s the best time, but those meetings happen once or twice a year. I miss them.

I have work friends, and those are genuinely good people, but they come with work baggage. In my experience, work friends only became real-life friends when I was no longer working with them. And yet, those are not close friendships.

When I do my walks multiple times a week, I see people walking and talking on the phone. Some are venting to someone, while others are walking together with friends. And all I do is walk in silence while I listen to music or a podcast.

So why am I telling you all this? I’m not looking for pity or consolation. I understand very clearly that what I’m going through as a nerdy adult is not the same experience other people are going through. Some of you have families, some of you have meaningful friendships to rely on.

And some of you don’t. Just like me.

Perhaps I can do something to change that. Creating another Discord server, Facebook group, WhatsApp group or anything else is easy, but it’s just another place to share messages. Just like your favorite subreddit. We need something more meaningful, like a video call where people can meet each other and get to know one another.

I’m 100% sure I can host a video meeting where people can talk face-to-face in a group and decide how often we want to meet. Perhaps some real-life friendships can develop from that meeting.

What do you think? Would that be something you’d enjoy being a part of? I’ll make it easy to express interest - just reply Yes to this email or in the comments and that will let me know you’re interested.

I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

Talk soon,
Oren